Another Voice in the Chorus

A friend just sent me the link to Ms. Warren’s eloquent plea, and I also saw it re-posted on Rebecca’s blog. As both women have meaningful observations, I thought I’d pass this on. Rebecca is a woman who is much farther along grief’s highway than we are, and offers the perspective of time. What’s true, is that some things do not ‘get better’ with time, no matter how much of it passes. We never go back to our old selves, we are changed permanently. Those old selves are buried with our children. We all have to continue to let people know this; we no longer run on any external timetable. How we deal with this, and in what time frame differs with everyone. As I just said, we are all different in how we do this, yet we are all exactly the same in needing as much time and space as it takes.

Grief: One Woman's Perspective

The suicide of Rick and Kay Warren’s son made headline news a year ago. Rick is the founder and senior pastor of Saddleback Church, one of the largest churches in America, and author of The Purpose Driven Life and many other books. Recently Kay Warren posted this on her facebook page – her plea for understanding and for the support of true friends:

As the one-year anniversary of Matthew’s death approaches, I have been shocked by some subtle and not-so-subtle comments indicating that perhaps I should be ready to “move on.” The soft, compassionate cocoon that has enveloped us for the last 11 1/2 months had lulled me into believing others would be patient with us on our grief journey, and while I’m sure many will read this and quickly say “Take all the time you need,” I’m increasingly aware that the cocoon may be in the process of collapsing…

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About edcol52

The Infinite Fountain of Love and Loss flows unceasingly into the pool of memory and sorrow. I created this blog in response to the most dreadful tragedy every parent fears, the death of a child, our 24 year old son, Jake. We are now on an unimagined journey along this road of grief and recovery. If you can find some comfort within these pages, than I will have succeeded in some small measure.
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1 Response to Another Voice in the Chorus

  1. Anne Rodman says:

    Wow. Thank you on several levels, Ed. It’s shocking to contemplate that anyone would believe that anyone in your situation can get back to normal, let alone “sparkle”, after stepping on the IED that is this kind of loss. Kudos to you and to Mrs. Warren, for your candor and generosity in giving testament.

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