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What You Can Say to a Bereaved Parent

I came across this article today, and it is a succinct and honest look at what you can say to someone who has lost a son or daughter. http://www.today.com/parents/child-loss-what-you-should-should-not-say-parents-t30596?cid=sm_fbn There is also one thing you may never say, “I know … Continue reading

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The Memory Labyrinth

We recently went north to attend a wedding in Sebastopol, near Santa Rosa in Northern California. On our way back home, we drove out to the Sonoma coast along the Russian River valley, a lovely 20 miles through rolling forested … Continue reading

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Lost in Space

It has been nearly two months since I visited these pages. For some reason, the imperative to write is strangely absent. I have had thoughts of writing about Passover, Mother’s Day, the onset of the summer with Father’s Day, a … Continue reading

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Letting Go of the Dream

I had a session with M., a biofield healer, the other day. She was repairing my energy fields and at one point she said, “You have to let go of your dreams.” I didn’t ask her in what context she meant … Continue reading

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Dear Newly Bereaved Parent

This is an essay I came across today. It’s honest and true. I would say many of the same things. The thing is, two years ago, all I would have heard, should someone have read this to me, all I … Continue reading

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6 Things About My New Normal

Grief literature is filled with the concept of the “new normal”. It is usually portrayed as the goal for people grappling to rebuild their lives after a traumatic event. The idea is, in a situation which appears so surreal – the destruction of your … Continue reading

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The Day the Music Died

When Jake died he took many things with him. He took a possible future where Terry and I became doting grandparents and replaced it with a future where we are that old childless couple sitting on the park bench as young lovers … Continue reading

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The New Header Photo

This is the sunset that ended the day of the last round of golf I played with Jake. The Pete Dye course at the Westin Mission Hills in Palm Springs. Last November. We played until we couldn’t see the ball. Somewhere … Continue reading

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The Unveiling

I was going to write a long descriptive post about Jake’s unveiling on Sunday. I can only say that no parent should have to look on something like this:   We had our closest friends and family surrounding us. Jake’s spirit … Continue reading

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Golfing With(out) Jake

Jake and I played golf throughout his life. We got him his first set of toy clubs when he was three or four. He would hockey the oversized ball around the yard until he had coaxed it into the big plastic “hole” … Continue reading

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