Category Archives: Grief

December 31, 2015

The following post is from last year at this time. That joyous, pineapple martini New Year’s Eve seems so far away, like a fragment of a dream remembered upon awakening. Two years ago we sat in our home, the first night … Continue reading

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Everything Doesn’t Happen for a Reason

This excellent essay has been making the rounds. It is well written and anyone who is grieving knows it is true. To imply that there is some higher reason for our tragedies does not lessen our pain or make it … Continue reading

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The Waves of Grief

If you have ever been swamped by the waves, here is one person’s reply as to how to manage them. In the case of a parent who has lost a child, those waves are a thousand feet tall, and you … Continue reading

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August 19, 2015

August 19, 1989 was Jake’s birthday. In years past, when Jake was young, we would have had a wonderful party, our home filled with friends and family. We had some epic parties. Taking over parks, playing laser tag, (remember laser tag?), … Continue reading

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“Full Impact” by Kelly Farley

Originally posted on Grieving Dads: To the Brink and Back:
Full Impact I was recently at an event for the consulting engineering industry that I work in and ran into a couple of fellow colleagues. During the conversation, I asked…

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How Losing Someone Stays With You

Sharing a short article from another blog. Losing a child is a permanent thing. The loss is forever. The grief is forever. The sadness is forever. There is no getting ‘over’ it. We hear a lot about the “new normal”. … Continue reading

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Father Day’s Aftermath

I realized today that I have written exactly three installments of this blog since January 1. Oh, I have kept the blog alive by reposting other articles, other’s words. In my last post of March 23 I talked about how … Continue reading

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The Day the Music Died

When Jake died he took many things with him. He took a possible future where Terry and I became doting grandparents and replaced it with a future where we are that old childless couple sitting on the park bench as young lovers … Continue reading

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5 Rights of the Bereaved Parent

This article reiterates much of what I and many others have written, clearly and concisely. We paid a terrible price for these ‘rights’, and deserve to have others honor and respect them. I thank our dear friends and families for … Continue reading

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Another Anniversary

Today is Jake’s Yahrzeit, the Memorial Anniversary of his death. The payment for having two birthdays, one in the “English” or Gregorian calendar and one in the Jewish calendar is that there are now two days on which to remember … Continue reading

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