Category Archives: Coping

How Can I Sing With a Broken Heart.

Posted on February 2, 2018 by edcol52

We went to a concert last night. Hawaiian music. Keola Beamer, a master of Hawaiian slack key guitar, and Henry Kapono. They were two of the progenitors and drivers of the Hawaiian Rennaissance during the 60’s and 70’s. It was … Continue reading →

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December 28, 2017

Posted on December 30, 2017 by edcol52

Thursday was December 28, the 4th December 28th since Jake’s passing. 4 years. It doesn’t seem possible, but in this new world I now inhabit, anything is possible. It is one of the curiosities of time that it can be … Continue reading →

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In the Beginning …

Posted on October 16, 2017 by edcol52

“You say you lost your faith, but that’s not where it’s at. You had no faith to lose and you know it.” Bob Dylan – Positively 4th Street We have just come through the three weeks of what is called … Continue reading →

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A Perpetual State of Bewilderment

Posted on April 25, 2017 by edcol52

It seems unbelievable that exactly three years ago, I wrote a post for this blog titled “A New Stage”. It was a stage of grief that isn’t really discussed in the “grief literature”, one that I named the WTF stage. … Continue reading →

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Where are My Simchas?

Posted on April 8, 2017 by edcol52

In Hebrew, ‘simcha’ means gladness or joy. It is often used as a noun to denote any celebration because a celebration is always a cause for happiness. Simchas are usually connected with one’s children: births, Bar or Bat Mitzvahs, weddings. It is … Continue reading →

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Into the New Year

Posted on January 30, 2017 by edcol52

January is almost over, so if I am going to write a post on the New Year and the past Holiday season, I’d better get on it before it is next year already. We made it through the Holidays basically … Continue reading →

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Post Father’s Day Post

Posted on June 22, 2016 by edcol52

This past Sunday was Father’s Day, or as I now call it, Effing Father’s Day. The third without the son who made me a father. There was a time when I revelled in my fatherhood, had some epic times on … Continue reading →

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Letting Go of the Dream

Posted on April 18, 2016 by edcol52

I had a session with M., a biofield healer, the other day. She was repairing my energy fields and at one point she said, “You have to let go of your dreams.” I didn’t ask her in what context she meant … Continue reading →

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Dear Newly Bereaved Parent

Posted on February 3, 2016 by edcol52

This is an essay I came across today. It’s honest and true. I would say many of the same things. The thing is, two years ago, all I would have heard, should someone have read this to me, all I … Continue reading →

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6 Things About My New Normal

Posted on January 14, 2016 by edcol52

Grief literature is filled with the concept of the “new normal”. It is usually portrayed as the goal for people grappling to rebuild their lives after a traumatic event. The idea is, in a situation which appears so surreal – the destruction of your … Continue reading →

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