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Category Archives: Coping
6 Things About My New Normal
Grief literature is filled with the concept of the “new normal”. It is usually portrayed as the goal for people grappling to rebuild their lives after a traumatic event. The idea is, in a situation which appears so surreal – the destruction of your … Continue reading
Posted in Coping, Daily Ramblings, Grief, Jake Colman, Observations, Progress, Sadness
Tagged Anger, deathofachild, giftofdays, grievingparent, indifference, life, newnormal, Sorrow
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Another Double Whammy
Wednesday was Jake’s 2nd yahrtzeit, the anniversary of his passing in the Hebrew calendar. As I have written, the Jewish calendar is lunisolar and the dates drift around with respect to the Gregorian calendar we all use; the two dates rarely align … Continue reading
Posted in Ceremony, Coping, Friends and Family, Grief, Honoring Jake, Jake Colman, Sadness, Support
Tagged beauty, cemetery, compassion, deathofachld, friendsandfamily, graveside, greivingparents, Mourning
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December 31, 2015
The following post is from last year at this time. That joyous, pineapple martini New Year’s Eve seems so far away, like a fragment of a dream remembered upon awakening. Two years ago we sat in our home, the first night … Continue reading
Posted in Coping, Friends and Family, Grief, Honoring Jake, Memory, Sadness
Tagged Grief, grieving dad, grieving parents, holidays, newnormal, newyearseve
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December 28, 2015
Yesterday marked the second anniversary of Jake’s passing. Last year on this day, I wrote a long post about the first year, and what lessons I learned. I don’t have much new to report this year. My cousin is here … Continue reading
Posted in Coping, Food, Friends and Family, Honoring Jake, Jake Colman, Observations, Photography, Progress
Tagged Grief, grievingdad, lessons, movingforward, new normal, newyears
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Thanksgiving 2015
I want to reach out to all of those who may have an empty chair at their Thanksgiving table this year. A chair once occupied by a loving son or daughter. For them, this is a difficult time of year, … Continue reading
Posted in Ceremony, Coping, Friends and Family, Healing, Honoring Jake, Jake's Spirit, Memory, Support
Tagged dealingwithdeath, family, gratitude, holidays, lossofachild, thanksgiving
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Everything Doesn’t Happen for a Reason
This excellent essay has been making the rounds. It is well written and anyone who is grieving knows it is true. To imply that there is some higher reason for our tragedies does not lessen our pain or make it … Continue reading
Posted in Blog, Coping, Grief, Jake Colman, Other Media, Progress
Tagged deathofachild, Grief, livingwithgrief
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The Waves of Grief
If you have ever been swamped by the waves, here is one person’s reply as to how to manage them. In the case of a parent who has lost a child, those waves are a thousand feet tall, and you … Continue reading
Posted in Blog, Coping, Grief, Other Media, Sadness
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August 19, 2015
August 19, 1989 was Jake’s birthday. In years past, when Jake was young, we would have had a wonderful party, our home filled with friends and family. We had some epic parties. Taking over parks, playing laser tag, (remember laser tag?), … Continue reading
Posted in Ceremony, Coping, Grief, Honoring Jake, Jake Colman, Jake's Spirit, Memory, Sadness
Tagged anniversary, bereavedparent, brightest star, coping, deathofachild, deathofmyson, family, friendsandfamily, Grief, grieving parent
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How Losing Someone Stays With You
Sharing a short article from another blog. Losing a child is a permanent thing. The loss is forever. The grief is forever. The sadness is forever. There is no getting ‘over’ it. We hear a lot about the “new normal”. … Continue reading
Posted in Coping, Grief, Honoring Jake, Jake Colman, Other Media
Tagged anniversary, bereavedparent, coping, deathofachild, deathofason, Grief
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A High Functioning Bereaved Parent
This article from the New York times sheds light on what it is like to live with the loss of a child. He describes the days where the curtain of normalcy parts to reveal the shattered landscape we carry inside … Continue reading
Posted in Coping, Healing, Jake Colman, Other Media
Tagged bereavedparent, coping, deathofachild, deathofason
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