O Beautiful Boy

Posted on January 21, 2014 by edcol52

January 1, 2014

Oh Beautiful Boy of unbounded grace
Our all, our light, our brilliant shining star
Our love for you transcends all time and space
And comes to you, though you be near or far.
To everyone you met, you brought such light
Your smile, your joy, your love of life shone clear
And now, in midst of sorrow’s darkest night
Your cherished memories we hold most dear.
Too soon, our son, too soon we had to part
The reason for which we may never know
But know you live within my loving heart
Your light undimmed by time will always glow
And so, my dearest darling Boy, take flight
We’ll meet you once again when time is right.

Yesterday we buried our cherished son. A sea of people came to honor him. A cocoon of caring love enveloped us and buoyed our spirits for a time. Looking out upon that loving ocean, halos of the late afternoon sunlight glowing about their heads, we were truly humbled and deeply moved. Jake’s spirit hovered above and shone down upon all of us.

Thank you everyone for helping us keep Jake’s memory alive. If everyone brings as much light into this world as you can, it might just come close to the light that Jake brought all by himself.

Originally posted on Facebook January 1, 2014

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The Saddest Day

Posted on January 21, 2014 by edcol52

December 31, 2013

The saddest day of my life.

Originally posted on Facebook December 31,2013

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Outpouring

Posted on January 21, 2014 by edcol52

Terry and I are overwhelmed by the outpouring of love and support from all our friends, and Jake’s friends. We are truly humbled by your thoughts, words and fond remembrances of Jake. The best thing we can do is to celebrate his life, his love of life, and his gentle and caring nature. Our Beautiful Boy.

The grief diet is working. 7 pounds in two days. But I don’t recommend it.

Funeral service for Jake will be at Hillside, 6001 W. Centinela at Sepulveda, 3 PM on Tuesday the 31st, graveside. Join us at our home afterwards to celebrate his life and bring a memory with you.

Another blossom
gone too soon

A bud really
strong
round
bright

Withered-still closed
petal by petal
dropped

Only memory
only what might have been

Unknnown Author

He was a chef, an artist, a photographer, an inventor, a builder, a deep thinker, a lover, a laugher, a traveller, a caring friend to all, with the gift of brightening up any room he walked into. He encouraged everyone he met to excel, to strive for his or her fullest potential. A fiercely loyal friend who touched so many people.

Maybe if we all loved him just a little more, held on a little tighter, he wouldn’t have slipped away like this. I know Terry and I couldn’t have loved him any more. He was our everything.

Originally Posted on Facebook on December 30, 2013

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Dear Universe

Posted on January 21, 2014 by edcol52

Dear Universe,
Fuck You. Give him back.

Helen: My heart keeps breaking and my eyes keep filling with tears for you and Terry. Don’t know how to make this go away for you or to turn back the clock. My love and my arms are wrapped around you as so many others are. No matter what is said this will never be right. Keep the beautiful memories tucked safe in your hearts. Hugs hugs hugs

Rakefet: They say we are only here until we learn our lessons…maybe he was ready to teach others and watch over us. Doesn’t make it any better. We are all with you both.

My heart keeps breaking into smaller and smaller pieces. How will I ever get them back together again?

Marcus: Your heart is like a mirror, a reflection of your son…and even if it is now broken into many pieces, these pieces will all reflect him a thousand times more.

David: “It is one of the mysteries of our nature that a man [or a woman], all unprepared, can receive a thunder-stroke like that and live. There is but one reasonable explanation for it. The intellect is stunned by the shock of it and but gropingly gathers the meaning of the words. The power to realize their full import is mercifully wanting. The mind has a dumb sense of vast loss – that is all. It will take mind and memory months, and possibly years, to gather together the details and thus learn and know the whole extent of the loss….It will be years before the tale of lost essentials is complete, and not till then can he [she] truly know the magnitude of his [her] disaster.” – Mark Twain on the death of his daughter Jean.

Kate:  Mine, too, Ed. Jake and I talked a lot about people dying young- especially after Austin’s passing- and he told me that it were him instead of Austin, he would want people to celebrate how much fun and love he had during his life. It’s a lot easier said than done, though, but I can’t stop remembering Jake saying that.

Bob:  “One crowded hour of glorious life is worth an age without a name.”

Originally posted on Facebook December 30, 2013

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The Saddest News Imaginable

Posted on January 20, 2014 by edcol52

Our beautiful son, Jacob Samuel Smilen Colman passed away on Saturday morning December 28, 2013, at his apartment in Palm Springs. The exact cause is still unknown, but preliminary indications are that it was “natural causes”. As if there is anything natural about a 24 year old boy dying in his home. We will post an announcement about his funeral when we know when and where. Rest in Peace, Jakey Jake.

Originally posted on December 28, 2013

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