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How Losing Someone Stays With You

Sharing a short article from another blog. Losing a child is a permanent thing. The loss is forever. The grief is forever. The sadness is forever. There is no getting ‘over’ it. We hear a lot about the “new normal”. … Continue reading

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A High Functioning Bereaved Parent

This article from the New York times sheds light on what it is like to live with the loss of a child. He describes the days where the curtain of normalcy parts to reveal the shattered landscape we carry inside … Continue reading

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65,837 Words

I have been collecting all my writings from this past year into one long document that I keep on my computer desktop. It has a feature that counts the words, and with this post I’ll pass 65,000, not counting commentary on other … Continue reading

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Another Anniversary

Today is Jake’s Yahrzeit, the Memorial Anniversary of his death. The payment for having two birthdays, one in the “English” or Gregorian calendar and one in the Jewish calendar is that there are now two days on which to remember … Continue reading

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Light a Candle

The Compassionate Friends/USA Please join us this Sunday, December 14 for the Worldwide Candle Lighting in memory of all children gone too soon. For full information including services around the globe, visit: https://www.compassionatefriends.org/WCL…/2014_services.aspx. If there is not a service near you, … Continue reading

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It’s Gonna Be a Tough Few Weeks

Well, here we go. Careening into the ‘holiday season’. For many people, this is a very difficult time of year under the best of circumstance; for someone who is grieving the loss of a child, it can be excruciating. That … Continue reading

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Golfing With(out) Jake

Jake and I played golf throughout his life. We got him his first set of toy clubs when he was three or four. He would hockey the oversized ball around the yard until he had coaxed it into the big plastic “hole” … Continue reading

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Sometimes, It’s the Most Unexpected Things

We have a small guest house attached to our home. Jake lived back there on and off during various phases these last several years. When we went to collect his belongings from Palm Springs last December, we just put everything … Continue reading

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Twenty-one

It has been twenty-one weeks since I heard those heart-stopping words over my cell phone that bright Saturday afternoon. Nearly five months, and yet, it was at once, but a moment ago, and an aeon ago. Twenty-one Friday nights, twenty-one … Continue reading

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A New Stage

I have encountered a new stage of grief. There have been volumes written on these stages, or more accurately phases. We don’t go through them step by step, but rather by turns, and I mean twists and turns, looping back … Continue reading

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