Tag Archives: Grief

August 19, 2015

August 19, 1989 was Jake’s birthday. In years past, when Jake was young, we would have had a wonderful party, our home filled with friends and family. We had some epic parties. Taking over parks, playing laser tag, (remember laser tag?), … Continue reading

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How Losing Someone Stays With You

Sharing a short article from another blog. Losing a child is a permanent thing. The loss is forever. The grief is forever. The sadness is forever. There is no getting ‘over’ it. We hear a lot about the “new normal”. … Continue reading

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Father Day’s Aftermath

I realized today that I have written exactly three installments of this blog since January 1. Oh, I have kept the blog alive by reposting other articles, other’s words. In my last post of March 23 I talked about how … Continue reading

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The Day the Music Died

When Jake died he took many things with him. He took a possible future where Terry and I became doting grandparents and replaced it with a future where we are that old childless couple sitting on the park bench as young lovers … Continue reading

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5 Rights of the Bereaved Parent

This article reiterates much of what I and many others have written, clearly and concisely. We paid a terrible price for these ‘rights’, and deserve to have others honor and respect them. I thank our dear friends and families for … Continue reading

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Another Anniversary

Today is Jake’s Yahrzeit, the Memorial Anniversary of his death. The payment for having two birthdays, one in the “English” or Gregorian calendar and one in the Jewish calendar is that there are now two days on which to remember … Continue reading

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If Only Once, If Only for a Little While

This is a web comic dealing with loss, grief and coping. Kinda funny saying ‘comic’ and ‘grief’ in the same sentence, but it is very moving once you figure out what is going on. http://hirosemary.com/If-Only-Once-If-Only-For-A-Little-While Worth scrolling to the end, … Continue reading

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Lessons of the Year

December 28, 2014 – 10:15 AM As we mark the one year ‘anniversary’ of Jake’s death, I find myself reflecting on the past twelve months, and what, if anything, I have learned. There have been many lessons, both painful and enlightening. It … Continue reading

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The Unveiling

I was going to write a long descriptive post about Jake’s unveiling on Sunday. I can only say that no parent should have to look on something like this:   We had our closest friends and family surrounding us. Jake’s spirit … Continue reading

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The Grief Bandit

I follow a blog called Grieving Dads. It is a forum for men to share their grief and experiences of grief. I commented on a post about the Grief Bandit, lurking in the rocks, waiting to strike. One of the … Continue reading

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