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Eleven Months

It is the orthodox custom to recite Kaddish, the prayer said by mourners on behalf of the departed, for eleven months following the death of a parent. Why eleven months? The belief is that the departed sits under Divine judgement for … Continue reading

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Here it Comes. Here it Is. There it Goes.

Last Thursday was Rosh Hashanah, the Jewish New Year. Early last week I had it in mind to write a post about the impending holiday, but for reasons described elsewhere, I didn’t. Now that the first of the High Holy … Continue reading

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The Physical Toll of Grief

Yesterday was June 28th. Exactly six months, twenty-six weeks, since our beloved son died. Twenty-six joyless Shabbats. Twenty-six dreaded Saturday mornings. One hundred eighty-two days I have had to live in this world without Jake. It still doesn’t seem possible. … Continue reading

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Sometimes, It’s the Most Unexpected Things

We have a small guest house attached to our home. Jake lived back there on and off during various phases these last several years. When we went to collect his belongings from Palm Springs last December, we just put everything … Continue reading

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Twenty-one

It has been twenty-one weeks since I heard those heart-stopping words over my cell phone that bright Saturday afternoon. Nearly five months, and yet, it was at once, but a moment ago, and an aeon ago. Twenty-one Friday nights, twenty-one … Continue reading

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“Grief and Loss”

This showed up today from another blog I follow, Grief and Gratitude. I am still in the sleepwalking phase; I can’t yet say when I might make it to the next phase. But I know, intellectually, that there is another life ahead … Continue reading

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The Persistence of Memory

“The Persistence of Memory” is arguably one of Salvador Dali’s best known and most analyzed paintings. Scores of scholars have written millions of words exploring the symbolism of the soft watches, the ants, the cliffs, and the figure in the center of the … Continue reading

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Think of the “Like” button as a “Support” button

Originally posted on Willower.org:
Happy stories, sad stories Happy or funny stories compel people to “Like” and “Share” them. Inspirational, uplifting and amusing stories sometimes go viral. That’s the incredible thing about the internet. It can inform, inspire, entertain, and…

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Hercules or Sisyphus?

We all know about Hercules. He was the son of Zeus, king of the Gods, and Alcmene, a mortal woman. Zeus’ wife Hera was jealous of her and while she couldn’t really do anything about the situation, she vowed to … Continue reading

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What’s in a Number?

Today is the 28th of April. Not a particularly significant date other than it marks four months since our beautiful boy died. Why should this day mean more than any of the previous 121 days since that dreadful 28th? Why do … Continue reading

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