Category Archives: Healing

A High Functioning Bereaved Parent

This article from the New York times sheds light on what it is like to live with the loss of a child. He describes the days where the curtain of normalcy parts to reveal the shattered landscape we carry inside … Continue reading

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65,837 Words

I have been collecting all my writings from this past year into one long document that I keep on my computer desktop. It has a feature that counts the words, and with this post I’ll pass 65,000, not counting commentary on other … Continue reading

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Message from Manila

In August, we sold our 100 year-old Detroit Jewel gas cooking stove. My dad bought it at a swap meet in 1972 and not quite knowing what to do with it, gave it to me. When I got it, it … Continue reading

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Golfing With(out) Jake

Jake and I played golf throughout his life. We got him his first set of toy clubs when he was three or four. He would hockey the oversized ball around the yard until he had coaxed it into the big plastic “hole” … Continue reading

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What to Say and What Not to Say

I have written about some of these things before and shared links to other articles. This is one of the best and most concise compendiums of what and what not to say to a bereaved person. After nearly 10 months, … Continue reading

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Jake’s Birthday

Yesterday was Jake’s 25th birthday. Somehow we made it through without imploding, vaporizing, or disintegrating. We went for juicy pastrami sandwiches dripping with coleslaw on fresh crusty rye for lunch at Langer’s, an old-school deli in downtown LA. Jake would … Continue reading

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“Grief and Loss”

This showed up today from another blog I follow, Grief and Gratitude. I am still in the sleepwalking phase; I can’t yet say when I might make it to the next phase. But I know, intellectually, that there is another life ahead … Continue reading

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