Category Archives: Jake Colman

Save yourself: write now, tomorrow, or whenever

Posted on March 17, 2014 by edcol52

Yet another grieving parent on this lonely road. These are wise words. There is healing in pouring yourself out onto a page, no matter if anyone reads it or not. Private journal, public posting, scribble on a cocktail napkin, but … Continue reading →

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You’re Okay, I’m Not Okay

Posted on March 15, 2014 by edcol52

What do I say to the person who asks, “How are you doing?” The question is such a reflexive conversational device. People ask without even thinking. Most of them listen to the reply without really hearing what you are saying, … Continue reading →

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Another Voice in the Chorus

Posted on March 15, 2014 by edcol52

Originally posted on Grief: One Woman's Perspective:
The suicide of Rick and Kay Warren’s son made headline news a year ago. Rick is the founder and senior pastor of Saddleback Church, one of the largest churches in America, and…

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Exactly the Same and Completely Different

Posted on March 12, 2014 by edcol52

As I have noted, many of the blogs I read resonate with me. All of the parents in the “lost children” club use many of the same words, metaphors, and analogies to describe their experiences. Externally, we seem to be … Continue reading →

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Where Are the Dads?

Posted on March 10, 2014 by edcol52

I have been out in the ‘grieving parent blogosphere’ for a while now. There are a lot of mothers posting the most beautifully eloquent writings about their experiences, their lost children, the struggle to rebuild their shattered lives. So far, … Continue reading →

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Empathy versus Sympathy

Posted on March 10, 2014 by edcol52

Originally posted on MourningAmyMarie:
What is the best way to ease someone’s pain and suffering? Quick fixes don’t work. Especially when it comes to dealing with a loved one or friend who is grieving. Reminding them to count their blessings…

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River of Tears

Posted on March 8, 2014 by edcol52

A piece of the chorus of this Bonnie Raitt song keeps going through my head today. “River of Tears/Oceans of Heartbreak.” It is a song about a breakup of love, the rest of the lyrics don’t exactly apply, but what … Continue reading →

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Just Grinding Along

Posted on March 5, 2014 by edcol52

Yeah, that’s how these past few days felt. Just grinding along. Crossing off the days one by one. I have settled into a sort of routine now. Up at 6:35 during the week. Shul by 6:45, Kaddish, and home by 7:15. … Continue reading →

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Making the Minyan

Posted on February 28, 2014 by edcol52

There is a concept in Judaism of ‘minyan’ or a quorum of ten men necessary for public religious observances. The sources of this requirement are several Biblical verses regarding congregations and the number of people who constitute a ‘congregation’, as … Continue reading →

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How to Deal With Grief When You Still Have to Work

Posted on February 28, 2014 by edcol52

This post by Paolina Milana published on The Daily Muse talks a bit about things to consider when returning to work after losing a loved one. Pretty good advice. Especially the Be Kind to Yourself part. http://www.themuse.com/advice/grief-at-the-office-how-to-deal-with-the-worst-when-you-still-have-to-work

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