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Golfing With(out) Jake

Posted on November 23, 2014 by edcol52

Jake and I played golf throughout his life. We got him his first set of toy clubs when he was three or four. He would hockey the oversized ball around the yard until he had coaxed it into the big plastic “hole” … Continue reading →

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Eleven Months

Posted on November 17, 2014 by edcol52

It is the orthodox custom to recite Kaddish, the prayer said by mourners on behalf of the departed, for eleven months following the death of a parent. Why eleven months? The belief is that the departed sits under Divine judgement for … Continue reading →

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The Akeidah

Posted on November 8, 2014 by edcol52

God said to Abraham, “Kill me a son” Abe says, “Man, you must be puttin’ me on” God say, “No”, Abe say, “What?” God say, “You can do what you want Abe, but The next time you see me comin’ … Continue reading →

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Still in the Dark

Posted on October 29, 2014 by edcol52

Yesterday was October 28th. Ten months since our son died. I wasn’t really aware of the date until today, but my body knew what day it was. I woke up early to take a friend to the airport. Returning home, … Continue reading →

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Sukkot

Posted on October 11, 2014 by edcol52

We are in the midst of celebrating the 7-day holiday of Sukkot, the Jewish “Harvest Festival”. After all the fasting and atoning and spiritual soul-searching we are supposed to do during Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, Sukkot which comes just … Continue reading →

Posted in Ceremony, Food, Friends and Family, Grief, Honoring Jake, Jake Colman, Jake's Spirit, Memory | Tagged , , , , | 3 Comments

It’s Not Getting Any Easier

Posted on June 14, 2014 by edcol52

This has been a very arduous couple of weeks, full of ups and downs. We have been renovating our guest house, the place where Jake lived on and off for the past few years. Going through his belongings left there … Continue reading →

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One of Those Days

Posted on April 2, 2014 by edcol52

I haven’t had any really happy days since December 28. I have had somewhat pleasant days, neutral days, numb days, indifferent days, and sad days. For some reason, today is one of the sad ones. I can’t quite place my … Continue reading →

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Fixing Shiva

Posted on March 22, 2014 by edcol52

Shiva is the seven days immediately following a Jewish burial. It is the very beginning of the mourning process, a process that can take a lifetime. Typically, the mourners stay at home, and members of the community come to call. … Continue reading →

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