Category Archives: Coping

Where Are the Dads?

Posted on March 10, 2014 by edcol52

I have been out in the ‘grieving parent blogosphere’ for a while now. There are a lot of mothers posting the most beautifully eloquent writings about their experiences, their lost children, the struggle to rebuild their shattered lives. So far, … Continue reading →

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Empathy versus Sympathy

Posted on March 10, 2014 by edcol52

Originally posted on MourningAmyMarie:
What is the best way to ease someone’s pain and suffering? Quick fixes don’t work. Especially when it comes to dealing with a loved one or friend who is grieving. Reminding them to count their blessings…

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River of Tears

Posted on March 8, 2014 by edcol52

A piece of the chorus of this Bonnie Raitt song keeps going through my head today. “River of Tears/Oceans of Heartbreak.” It is a song about a breakup of love, the rest of the lyrics don’t exactly apply, but what … Continue reading →

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Just Grinding Along

Posted on March 5, 2014 by edcol52

Yeah, that’s how these past few days felt. Just grinding along. Crossing off the days one by one. I have settled into a sort of routine now. Up at 6:35 during the week. Shul by 6:45, Kaddish, and home by 7:15. … Continue reading →

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Last Times, First Times

Posted on March 2, 2014 by edcol52

Another week, another Shabbat, another month past and gone. And yet, it still seems like a moment ago that we learned of Jake’s untimely death. What have I gleaned in this past two months? Not much, other than human beings … Continue reading →

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Making the Minyan

Posted on February 28, 2014 by edcol52

There is a concept in Judaism of ‘minyan’ or a quorum of ten men necessary for public religious observances. The sources of this requirement are several Biblical verses regarding congregations and the number of people who constitute a ‘congregation’, as … Continue reading →

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How to Deal With Grief When You Still Have to Work

Posted on February 28, 2014 by edcol52

This post by Paolina Milana published on The Daily Muse talks a bit about things to consider when returning to work after losing a loved one. Pretty good advice. Especially the Be Kind to Yourself part. http://www.themuse.com/advice/grief-at-the-office-how-to-deal-with-the-worst-when-you-still-have-to-work

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Chronic Sorrow

Posted on February 25, 2014 by edcol52

I flipped my radio on this morning and came into the middle of an interview on Morning Edition. The woman being interviewed was speaking about guilt and grief, and it took me a few minutes to realize she was recounting … Continue reading →

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Why Say Anything At All?

Posted on February 21, 2014 by edcol52

Here’s a rhetorical question. When people try to console those who grieve over a departed loved one, WHY do they find it necessary to chronicle all the terrible things they have heard about lately. For example, I spoke with someone … Continue reading →

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A Community of Sorrow

Posted on February 20, 2014 by edcol52

Since Jake’s death less than eight weeks ago, we have become members of a very exclusive group. It is part of a society that everyone joins sooner or later, but no one really thinks about it much. The Grief Community. … Continue reading →

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