Tag Archives: lossofachild

Last Times, First Times

Posted on March 2, 2014 by edcol52

Another week, another Shabbat, another month past and gone. And yet, it still seems like a moment ago that we learned of Jake’s untimely death. What have I gleaned in this past two months? Not much, other than human beings … Continue reading →

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Making the Minyan

Posted on February 28, 2014 by edcol52

There is a concept in Judaism of ‘minyan’ or a quorum of ten men necessary for public religious observances. The sources of this requirement are several Biblical verses regarding congregations and the number of people who constitute a ‘congregation’, as … Continue reading →

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The Memory Box

Posted on February 24, 2014 by edcol52

I received a package today. It contained 6 books donated by Kar-Ben publishing in Minneapolis, for Jake’s Library. Beautiful illustrated books for children ages 2-8. Books about Jewish holidays, life, and history. Books Jake would have loved when he was … Continue reading →

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Why Say Anything At All?

Posted on February 21, 2014 by edcol52

Here’s a rhetorical question. When people try to console those who grieve over a departed loved one, WHY do they find it necessary to chronicle all the terrible things they have heard about lately. For example, I spoke with someone … Continue reading →

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A Community of Sorrow

Posted on February 20, 2014 by edcol52

Since Jake’s death less than eight weeks ago, we have become members of a very exclusive group. It is part of a society that everyone joins sooner or later, but no one really thinks about it much. The Grief Community. … Continue reading →

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Ambushed!

Posted on February 17, 2014 by edcol52

Today started off just fine. Clear sky, bright yellow sunlight. Everything seemed to be okay. We had a lovely time the previous evening at our friends’ house, eating corned beef hash (one of Jake’s favorites) popping popcorn and watching, or more … Continue reading →

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Cycles

Posted on February 16, 2014 by edcol52

Life is filled with cycles. There is the cycle of the seasons throughout the year, spring, summer, autumn, winter. The cycle of months. There is the cycle of the days in the week. Within each day is the cycle of … Continue reading →

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Another Shabbat

Posted on February 14, 2014 by edcol52

Today was another unremarkable day. I guess that is also progress of a sort. A little puttering around the house, lunch with Terry, and a walk along the jetty in the afternoon. It was one of those beautiful Los Angeles … Continue reading →

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Foggy Days

Posted on February 12, 2014 by edcol52

Yesterday passed in a fog. Outside and inside. When I left the house in the morning, the ocean fog blanketed the world in its grey mantle, softening shapes and sounds. I couldn’t see much more than a couple of hundred … Continue reading →

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Books and Bowls

Posted on February 10, 2014 by edcol52

Today I got two stacks of letters ready to mail. The first was made up of some bills Jake left behind. I wrote a brief letter explaining the situation to the creditors and printed copies of the death certificate. Seeing … Continue reading →

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