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Category Archives: Progress
6 Things About My New Normal
Grief literature is filled with the concept of the “new normal”. It is usually portrayed as the goal for people grappling to rebuild their lives after a traumatic event. The idea is, in a situation which appears so surreal – the destruction of your … Continue reading
Posted in Coping, Daily Ramblings, Grief, Jake Colman, Observations, Progress, Sadness
Tagged Anger, deathofachild, giftofdays, grievingparent, indifference, life, newnormal, Sorrow
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December 28, 2015
Yesterday marked the second anniversary of Jake’s passing. Last year on this day, I wrote a long post about the first year, and what lessons I learned. I don’t have much new to report this year. My cousin is here … Continue reading
Posted in Coping, Food, Friends and Family, Honoring Jake, Jake Colman, Observations, Photography, Progress
Tagged Grief, grievingdad, lessons, movingforward, new normal, newyears
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Everything Doesn’t Happen for a Reason
This excellent essay has been making the rounds. It is well written and anyone who is grieving knows it is true. To imply that there is some higher reason for our tragedies does not lessen our pain or make it … Continue reading
Posted in Blog, Coping, Grief, Jake Colman, Other Media, Progress
Tagged deathofachild, Grief, livingwithgrief
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The Day the Music Died
When Jake died he took many things with him. He took a possible future where Terry and I became doting grandparents and replaced it with a future where we are that old childless couple sitting on the park bench as young lovers … Continue reading
Posted in Coping, Daily Ramblings, Grief, Jake Colman, Memory, Progress, Sadness
Tagged American folk music, deathofason, emotion, friends, Grief, grievingparent, instruments, Jake, music, Sadness, tears, Traditional music
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Another one of those “What Not to Say to Bereaved Parents” posts
Originally posted on Grief: One Woman's Perspective:
I know it’s really hard to know what to say to a bereaved parent. There are some really good books and blog articles out there on what to say or not say, though,…
Posted in Blog, Grief, Jake Colman, Other Media, Progress, Support
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Lessons of the Year
December 28, 2014 – 10:15 AM As we mark the one year ‘anniversary’ of Jake’s death, I find myself reflecting on the past twelve months, and what, if anything, I have learned. There have been many lessons, both painful and enlightening. It … Continue reading
Posted in Coping, Friends and Family, Grief, Honoring Jake, Jake Colman, Jake's Spirit, Kindness, Memory, Observations, Progress
Tagged deathofason, friendship, Grief, grieving parents, Loss, loyalty, memory, Mourning, progress, time, Tragedy, years
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Golfing With(out) Jake
Jake and I played golf throughout his life. We got him his first set of toy clubs when he was three or four. He would hockey the oversized ball around the yard until he had coaxed it into the big plastic “hole” … Continue reading
Posted in Golf, Healing, Honoring Jake, Jake Colman, Jake's Spirit, Memory, Progress
Tagged deathofachild, golf, grievingdad, grievingparent, hawaii, lossofason, mexico, palmsprings, petedye
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Eleven Months
It is the orthodox custom to recite Kaddish, the prayer said by mourners on behalf of the departed, for eleven months following the death of a parent. Why eleven months? The belief is that the departed sits under Divine judgement for … Continue reading
Posted in Ceremony, Friends and Family, Grief, Honoring Jake, Jake Colman, Progress, Sadness
Tagged Grief, grievingdad, grievingparent, kaddish, lossofason, Sorrow
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Losing My Voice
Where does the time go? I have read that it takes 21 days to create a habit. That is if you want to start doing something, do it consistently for 21 days, and you will create the habit to continue … Continue reading
Posted in Daily Ramblings, Friends and Family, Grief, Honoring Jake, Jake Colman, Memory, Observations, Poetry, Progress
Tagged deathofason, grievingfather, jake'sbirthday, lossofachild, robertburns
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