Category Archives: Sadness

August 19, 2015

August 19, 1989 was Jake’s birthday. In years past, when Jake was young, we would have had a wonderful party, our home filled with friends and family. We had some epic parties. Taking over parks, playing laser tag, (remember laser tag?), … Continue reading

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Father Day’s Aftermath

I realized today that I have written exactly three installments of this blog since January 1. Oh, I have kept the blog alive by reposting other articles, other’s words. In my last post of March 23 I talked about how … Continue reading

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The Day the Music Died

When Jake died he took many things with him. He took a possible future where Terry and I became doting grandparents and replaced it with a future where we are that old childless couple sitting on the park bench as young lovers … Continue reading

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The New Header Photo

This is the sunset that ended the day of the last round of golf I played with Jake. The Pete Dye course at the Westin Mission Hills in Palm Springs. Last November. We played until we couldn’t see the ball. Somewhere … Continue reading

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The Unveiling

I was going to write a long descriptive post about Jake’s unveiling on Sunday. I can only say that no parent should have to look on something like this:   We had our closest friends and family surrounding us. Jake’s spirit … Continue reading

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The Grief Bandit

I follow a blog called Grieving Dads. It is a forum for men to share their grief and experiences of grief. I commented on a post about the Grief Bandit, lurking in the rocks, waiting to strike. One of the … Continue reading

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It’s Gonna Be a Tough Few Weeks

Well, here we go. Careening into the ‘holiday season’. For many people, this is a very difficult time of year under the best of circumstance; for someone who is grieving the loss of a child, it can be excruciating. That … Continue reading

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Eleven Months

It is the orthodox custom to recite Kaddish, the prayer said by mourners on behalf of the departed, for eleven months following the death of a parent. Why eleven months? The belief is that the departed sits under Divine judgement for … Continue reading

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Still in the Dark

Yesterday was October 28th. Ten months since our son died. I wasn’t really aware of the date until today, but my body knew what day it was. I woke up early to take a friend to the airport. Returning home, … Continue reading

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Here it Comes. Here it Is. There it Goes.

Last Thursday was Rosh Hashanah, the Jewish New Year. Early last week I had it in mind to write a post about the impending holiday, but for reasons described elsewhere, I didn’t. Now that the first of the High Holy … Continue reading

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